Femme enceinte sexualité et désir pendant la grossesse

Pregnant and feminine desire: let's break the taboos!

Pregnant, you have the feeling that " fragile woman " is not really the definition that best suits you. Your belly has rounded, you carry life in you and you need (much) more sleep, it's true. You are still a woman, and even a woman at the height of her power. Creative, imaginative, sensitive, overflowing with love, but also solid, influential, loving and seductive. A mother in the future and a woman, here and now, without waiting.

Feminine desire and pregnancy: let's break the taboos!

In fact, at many women, pregnancy reveals an exacerbated sensuality and gives rise to unexpected and/or heightened sensations. However, the image of the pregnant woman as the master of her sexuality is still difficult to accept and even to envisage, in our societies. Thus, the memoir of midwifery: " Sexuality during pregnancy: Perspectives on the couple published in 2017, states that:

  • 62 to 91% of midwives do not systematically discuss the subject of sexuality with their patients
  • 35-77% of pregnant women did not discuss their sexuality with a healthcare professional during their pregnancy
  • 66 to 71% of future fathers did not receive information about sexuality during pregnancy

Talking releases taboos and allows feelings to flourish. Far from the mother/lover opposition that would like sexual desire to have no place in the future mother, every woman must be able to live her femininity as she sees fit, without judgment and in complete freedom.

Pregnant, they want their companion more than ever

Due to a variable libido with often difficult beginnings, a flamboyant second trimester and a rather cautious last three months, women are now more in tune with their bodies and more and more of them want to take advantage of fulfilling sexuality during their pregnancy.

First trimester libido

The first three months of pregnancy are often marked by fatigue and nausea. A " small form " which does not really encourage unbridled sexual intercourse. The time is rather rest and preparation of body and mind. As for the couple, he takes advantage of these first weeks to digest the big news. Soon you will be parents!

second trimester libido

The second trimester of pregnancy is often the most prosperous period. Nausea is (in theory) over and mom-to-be's energy soars, as well as his sexual tone. The belly is not yet prominent, but is taking shape nicely. Weight gain is also moderate to non-existent. It is undoubtedly the best time to share your bubble of well-being and sensuality with him.

Third trimester libido

Unless there is a medical contraindication, the sexual intercourse can be continued until the last days before giving birth, but, discomfort, difficulty finding the right position, fear of "embarrassing" the baby or fear that orgasm will trigger contractions... Many couples slow down their activity around the 7th and 8th months of pregnancy.

If the figures are lacking to discuss female sexuality during pregnancy, the data concerning men are even rarer. One can only imagine a certain trouble seeing their lover become a mother and their child grow up inside her.

But, for men who appreciate radiant and sensual motherhood, for all men in love with their wives' rounded breasts and bellies, for those whom the generous body of the pregnant woman disturbs to the highest degree, Élhée has concocted a easy-to-follow recipe for a spiced love holiday before baby arrives. 

Take the time to take a close look at your relationship

Soon you will no longer be two, but three (or maybe more!). Soon your nights will no longer be calm and restful when you need them. Soon the whole rhythm of your life will change. This new perspective fills you with happiness and excitement, which you want to share with your partner.

And what better way to measure the importance of the change to come, than to take a break together? Of the prenatal holidays placed under the sign of well-being, contemplation, sweetness and sensuality.

Antenatal vacation for two

 

So it's decided, you're going on vacation. Head already far away, you put your nose in your suitcase to slip in some essentials : pregnancy dresses and comfortable shoes, a large hat and protective cream if you go out in the sun, compression stockings if you plan to fly, your medical file if necessary, a first aid kit approved by your doctor or your midwife, and a swimsuit to let yourself be carried away by the delights of the water.

But, since you intend to celebrate this moment of freedom, also think of slipping a few underwear adapted to highlight the generous curves dand your new body. Special mention to Christina Milian who excels in this exercise in sexy Savage x Fenty lingerie!

Do you prefer softer prints and more discreet models? The RougeGorge house offers a collection pretty mama refined, as is the Breton brand CacheCoeur, offers lingerie for pregnant women with clean and delicate lines.

Between physical changes and hormones that play tricks on you, you both have to deal with new physical sensitivities, of new erogenous zones, of new desires and sometimes even stronger orgasms.   

No, the baby bump is not an obstacle to sexuality.

Gentlemen! Organize a holiday to spend together under the duvet, during her pregnancy
  • Start with a dose of surprise
  • Add a beautiful declaration of love to the woman of your life
  • Bet on a fairly close destination to avoid fatigue, but romantic or original
  • Flavor it all second trimester preferably
  • Let rise with a nice gift (maternity lingerie, prenatal massage session, jewelry or bibRond Elhée for the future newborn !)
  • Appreciate the result during a romantic getaway, between lovers and future parents
Pregnancy: A Good Time to Test New Positions

 

When it comes to sex, anything goes as long as pleasure and mutual consent are met. While pregnant, make a habit of:

  • favor positions that do not exercise no pressure on the stomach
  • avoid acrobatic or tiring positions which could be uncomfortable for the future mother
  • identify the positions that generate a too deep penetration sometimes painful, to avoid them
  • favor positions where the pregnant woman is on top, sitting, straddling, or lying on her side

Whatever your choices in intimacy, always pay the greatest attention to your body, your well-being and your sensations. As long as you feel good and like each other, everything will be fine.

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