- Female desire and pregnancy: breaking the taboos!
- Taking the time to take a close look at your relationship
When you're pregnant, you feel that "fragile woman" isn't really the best definition for you. Your belly is rounder, you're carrying life inside you and you need (much) more sleep, it's true. But you're still a woman, and a woman at the height of her powers. Creative, imaginative, sensitive, overflowing with love, but also solid, influential, loving and seductive. A mother with a future and a woman, here and now, without waiting.
Female desire and pregnancy: breaking the taboos!
In fact, for many women, pregnancy reveals heightened sensuality, giving rise to unexpected and/or heightened sensations. However, the image of the pregnant woman as master of her sexuality is still difficult to accept and even to envisage in our society. Thus, the midwife's dissertation: "Sexuality during pregnancy: intersecting perspectives in the couple" published in 2017, states that:
- 62% to 91% of midwives do not systematically broach the subject of sexuality with their patients
- 35% to 77% of pregnant women have not discussed their sexuality with a healthcare professional during their pregnancy.
- 66 to 71% of fathers-to-be have not received any information about sexuality during pregnancy
Talking frees taboos and allows feelings to blossom. Far from the mother/lover opposition that would have us believe that sexual desire has no place in the mother-to-be, every woman should be able to live her femininity as she sees fit, without judgment and in complete freedom.
Pregnant, they want their partner more than ever
With a variable libido, often with a difficult start, a flamboyant second trimester and a more cautious last three months, more and more women are listening to their bodies and wanting to enjoy a fulfilling sexuality during their pregnancy.
Libido in the first trimester
The first three months of pregnancy are often marked by fatigue and nausea. A "little fit" that doesn't really encourage unbridled sexual lovemaking. Instead, it's time to rest and prepare body and mind. As for the couple, they're taking advantage of these first few weeks to digest the big news. Soon, you'll be parents!
Libido in the second trimester
The second trimester of pregnancy is often the busiest time of the year. The nausea is (in theory) over, and the mother-to-be's energy is soaring, as is her sexual tone. The belly is not yet prominent, but it's shaping up nicely. Weight gain is also moderate, if not non-existent. This is undoubtedly the best time to share your bubble of well-being and sensuality with him.
Libido in the third trimester
Unless medically contraindicated, intercourse can continue until the last days before delivery, but discomfort, difficulty in finding the right position, fear of "embarrassing" the baby or fear that orgasm will trigger contractions... Many couples slow down their activity around the 7th and 8th months of pregnancy.
If there is a lack of data on women's sexuality during pregnancy, there is even less on men. We can only imagine the turmoil of seeing their lover become a mother and their child grow inside her.
But for men who appreciate bright, sensual maternity, for all men in love with their wife's rounded breasts and belly, for those who are deeply troubled by a pregnant woman's generous body, Élhée has concocted an easy-to-follow recipe for a spicy vacation of love before baby arrives.
Taking the time to take a close look at your relationship
Soon there won't be two of you, but three (or maybe more!). Soon, your nights will no longer be calm and restful when you need them to be. Soon, the whole rhythm of your life will change. This new perspective fills you with happiness and excitement, which you want to share with your partner.
And what better way to gauge the importance of the change ahead than to take a break together? A prenatal vacation dedicated to well-being, contemplation, softness and sensuality.
Ante-natal duo vacations
So it's decided, you're going on vacation. With your head already far away, you reach into your your suitcase and slip in a few essentials A few essentials: maternity dresses and comfortable shoes, a large hat and protective cream if you're going out in the sun, compression stockings if you're planning to fly, your medical file in case you need them, a first-aid kit approved by your doctor or midwife, and a swimsuit so you can let yourself be carried away by the delights of the water.
But, since you're planning to celebrate this moment of freedom, don't forget to slip on some underwear to show off the generous curves of your new body . your new body. Special mention to Christina Milian who excels in this exercise in Savage x Fenty sexy lingerie!
Prefer softer prints and more discreet designs? RougeGorge offers a collection Jolie Mam' collection, as does Breton brand CacheCoeuroffers lingerie for pregnant women with refined, delicate lines.
Between physical changes and hormones playing tricks on you, you both have to deal with new physical sensitivities, new erogenous zones, new desires and sometimes even stronger orgasms.
Gentlemen! Organize a vacation to spend together under the comforter, while she's pregnant!No, the baby bump is not an obstacle to sexuality.
- Start with a dose of surprise
- Add a beautiful declaration of love to the woman in your life
- Choose a destination that's close by to avoid fatigue, but romantic or original.
- Flavour it preferably in the second trimester
- Raise your spirits with a lovely gift (maternity lingerie, prenatal massage session, jewel or bibRond Elhée for the newborn-to-be!)
- Enjoy the results on a romantic getaway, between lovers and parents-to-be
When it comes to sex, anything goes as long as pleasure and mutual consent are present. But when you're pregnant, get into the habit of :
- prefer positions that do not exert pressure on the abdomen
- avoid acrobatic or tiring positions that could be uncomfortable for the mother-to-be
- identify and avoid positions that can lead to painful deep penetration
- favour positions where the pregnant woman is on top, sitting, straddling or lying on her side
Whatever your choices when it comes to intimacy, always pay the utmost attention to your body, your well-being and your sensations. As long as you feel good and love yourself, you'll be fine.
